What The Hell is Wrong With People These Days?
Perhaps I'm just seeing the Darkside of Dating these days but why is it that people in the dating scene these days seem to miss the obvious?
You will never find the perfect mate, the perfect match, the perfect person for you. There isn't such. Does this mean you have to "settle"? Hell no, what it does mean is that you need to find someone you love who loves you. Then work on things from there. Is that so tough? Shouldn't be. Seems like there are a lot of people looking out there. I firmly believe that where there's a will there's a way. If you have reasonable expectations and are willing to work at a relationship, that is. But it seems it's much easier to throw things away early and tell oneself that the person just was not right for you. Personality clashes, different interests, mannerisms that you just cannot stand... all excellent reasons to hit the eject button and avoid having to actually work on a relationship. The cluecell is chirping and there's someone on the line to inform you that every possible potential mate in the world most likely will have traits that drive you absolutely nutz. And that you'll have to work on managing your reaction to those things and be honest with the person that those things drive you nutz to make the relationship work.
But hey, odds are if you cannot even put forth the effort to inform the person that you have a real interest in getting to know them better, odds are you'll never even make it to the last bit anyway, so what the hell eh? You'll never have to worry about that difficult interaction. Worn out, washed out and beaten down by not having your lifemate situation all settled and situated? This is a perfect excuse for you to just wind things back a bit and tell yourself... "Well Self, let's just go about this half-assed - let's refrain from expressing what we really want and just drop really profound clues instead. 'Cause that's easier and will help protect me against rejection when it inevitably comes my way." At this point you've basically thrown in the towel and have left your fate up to destiny. You are no longer creating opportunities for yourself and basically will receive your just desserts. And it will be so much easier to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say.. "Oh, I really didn't want that anyway." Because you never verbalized it. Not to them and not to yourself. And you know what? That message came off loud and clear to everyone involved I'm sure.
You will never find the perfect mate, the perfect match, the perfect person for you. There isn't such. Does this mean you have to "settle"? Hell no, what it does mean is that you need to find someone you love who loves you. Then work on things from there. Is that so tough? Shouldn't be. Seems like there are a lot of people looking out there. I firmly believe that where there's a will there's a way. If you have reasonable expectations and are willing to work at a relationship, that is. But it seems it's much easier to throw things away early and tell oneself that the person just was not right for you. Personality clashes, different interests, mannerisms that you just cannot stand... all excellent reasons to hit the eject button and avoid having to actually work on a relationship. The cluecell is chirping and there's someone on the line to inform you that every possible potential mate in the world most likely will have traits that drive you absolutely nutz. And that you'll have to work on managing your reaction to those things and be honest with the person that those things drive you nutz to make the relationship work.
But hey, odds are if you cannot even put forth the effort to inform the person that you have a real interest in getting to know them better, odds are you'll never even make it to the last bit anyway, so what the hell eh? You'll never have to worry about that difficult interaction. Worn out, washed out and beaten down by not having your lifemate situation all settled and situated? This is a perfect excuse for you to just wind things back a bit and tell yourself... "Well Self, let's just go about this half-assed - let's refrain from expressing what we really want and just drop really profound clues instead. 'Cause that's easier and will help protect me against rejection when it inevitably comes my way." At this point you've basically thrown in the towel and have left your fate up to destiny. You are no longer creating opportunities for yourself and basically will receive your just desserts. And it will be so much easier to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say.. "Oh, I really didn't want that anyway." Because you never verbalized it. Not to them and not to yourself. And you know what? That message came off loud and clear to everyone involved I'm sure.
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